i liked this post! definitely have felt similarly with pivoting a very large number of times in college. i think i was always hoping the next thing i pivoted to would be The Thing i'd effortlessly fall in love with and do for the rest of my life. it took me a while to realize that nothing is effortless and even the best relationships still require work and consistency to maintain
hope you have a good time with learning neuroscience :)
Limerence is a new word for me, thanks so much for sharing! I think it describes a lot of my life as well. Will have to introspect on this the next few years.
Thank you for reading :) I grew up without models of healthy relationships, so getting infatuated with crushes was something I had a tendency to do and had to work through. I found this lady's YT videos helpful, good luck! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ga4VHjKkv70
Absolutely same, limerence has impacted me drastically wrt living in fantasy narratives towards crushes that i couldn't get out of. Looking forward to checking this out
it feels great to hit the pivots hard but for me once I've gotten enough distance from the initial rampage it can feel equally great learning to take those curves as slow as needed. i love the opportunities I get to return to hyperfocus hobbies with a lifetime worth of experience to really give them the attention and proper thought process they deserve! with adhd that first impression is always going to be an indulgent rampage in a way that returning for seconds can really feel like an almost brand new experience.
This is a really good point, thank you for sharing! I have lifelong hobbies that I enjoy and don't intend to make my job, maybe it's a matter of adjusting expectations and being okay with it staying a hobby I enjoy
i liked this post! definitely have felt similarly with pivoting a very large number of times in college. i think i was always hoping the next thing i pivoted to would be The Thing i'd effortlessly fall in love with and do for the rest of my life. it took me a while to realize that nothing is effortless and even the best relationships still require work and consistency to maintain
hope you have a good time with learning neuroscience :)
Limerence is a new word for me, thanks so much for sharing! I think it describes a lot of my life as well. Will have to introspect on this the next few years.
Thank you for reading :) I grew up without models of healthy relationships, so getting infatuated with crushes was something I had a tendency to do and had to work through. I found this lady's YT videos helpful, good luck! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ga4VHjKkv70
Absolutely same, limerence has impacted me drastically wrt living in fantasy narratives towards crushes that i couldn't get out of. Looking forward to checking this out
it feels great to hit the pivots hard but for me once I've gotten enough distance from the initial rampage it can feel equally great learning to take those curves as slow as needed. i love the opportunities I get to return to hyperfocus hobbies with a lifetime worth of experience to really give them the attention and proper thought process they deserve! with adhd that first impression is always going to be an indulgent rampage in a way that returning for seconds can really feel like an almost brand new experience.
This is a really good point, thank you for sharing! I have lifelong hobbies that I enjoy and don't intend to make my job, maybe it's a matter of adjusting expectations and being okay with it staying a hobby I enjoy
this is so so good
thank you for reading I'm glad you're here :-)